There are many reasons for this, with the predominant reason being if the relationship goes south in a major “I never want to see you ever again” kind of way, it makes the post breakup clean a bit easier. There’s also the other breakup factor of “what if people think we’re still together? that will break my heart all over again”
Now, why am I all of a sudden talking about vagueness, relationships and breakups? Well, see that boy in the photo above? We’re in a relationship, which I’ve been fairly vague about in my public internet space. We also went through a bit of a rough patch (complete with a “post breakup clean” from my end) BUT we talked it out, made it through, changed some things and now we’re giving it another go.
I find that in a lot of internet spaces, people tend to only talk about the perfect aspects of their relationships. They’ll gush when they get together, but go silent when it falls apart (me included). Saying this, I don’t want my internet space to be a perfectly curated version of me and my life, because that’s disingenuous. My blog is a reflection of my authenticity and to hide the bad bits would be rejecting my authentic self.
On that note, this is Justin. He’s a good, but imperfect egg, which suits my imperfect self fine. We’re both human, and have our issues separately and together, but we make each others lives a little better with each passing day. Together in our human-ness we won’t always have a picture perfect relationship, but that’s ok.
Before things got hard, and then less hard this was supposed to be a lighthearted post about this one time we colour co-ordinated our outfits (drawing on this South Korean fashion trend) but since then I’ve been stuck in a bit of an existentially analytical place, so you got some semi vague mumbling instead :P
3 Cheers for being an imperfect human!