It’s been quite a lot of doom and gloom here lately. There’s a perfectly rational explanation - I write about what’s going on in my head, and that has been a complete rollercoaster thanks to my silly monkey brain, and a couple of boys here and there.
Anyway, I’ve been thinking recently about intentionality and how I can take responsibility for my work, mood and general day to day. So, without further ado, here are 7 mottos I apply to my life.
1) If I ever let being tired stop me, I’d never get out of bed.
It’s no secret that my schedule is a little… hectic. I fit a tonne into my days, and weeks. I play in bands and make all of the things, and see people. Often I’ll get asked “how do you manage it all?” and the above saying is what I reply with.
I am a naturally tired human. I’ve had times of busyness and also times of rest. Resting more doesn’t make me any less exhausted, so why rest and miss out if I’m going to be exhausted anyway?
2) I’d rather be poor and creatively fulfilled than rich and dead inside
Now, this isn’t to say that rich people are dead inside (because I happen to know a number who function very very well :) ) It’s simply to say that I as a human am not living my life with the purpose of making a tonne of money - I’m living it to create as many things as I can, monetary gain be damned.
3) Be the centre of your own community
This year has been full of “learning about life things”. One of the many lessons I’ve learned is how important a sense of community is to my functioning as a human.
I’ve often found it difficult to find myself already established communities, so I decided to take responsibility for my own needs and create spaces that encourage community.
4) Question everything
When I was in high school, we had a science teacher who had worked in the field (I don’t specifically remember which field, but one of them!) for many years. He used to tell us all the time to question everything we’re told, because adults don’t know everything, and one should not be ignorant.
I took that advice to heart and started the long process of learning how to question, research, and think critically about all different types of things, from the “life script” to the keyboard layout I use (I type on DVORAK).
5) Never Stop Learning
This kind of ties into my previous motto. You can’t question everything if you aren’t willing to learn and expand your mind.
It’s so easy as adults to just do the same thing over and over again, without thinking or learning.
This motto is why I now play uke, and viola (badly), it’s why I sew, and take photos and do most of the things I do on a weekly basis.
6) You only have time for the work you have done
This has been a big help for me this year when it comes to reducing my feeling of “work induced guilt”
I often have to do lists as long as a piece of string. I stuff them full of things. Too many things. When I don’t manage everything, it’s really easy to feel guilty and not good enough. Remembering this makes me feel less anxious and worthless.
7) If you have to force yourself to practice, you may as well have not practiced at all
Whenever I force myself to practice I get worse. I don’t know why this is, but it’s a thing with my brain, so now I don’t force myself to practice, and it makes music more fun, and progress more likely!
So yeah, those are the mottos I currently live by. They certainly don’t fix all of my problems, but they help to create a sense of peace in my otherwise existentially depressed brain.
Before I go, I want to talk a little about this outfit. This is the first in a “series” I’m starting called “Inspired by” (It’s more of an instagram series than a blog series necessarily, but as you can see, it’s being posted here as well!)
The aim of this series is twofold: 1) I want step out of my fashion comfort zone a little and maybe learn something new 2) There are countless women online who I’ve been following for many years. Watching them live their lives unapologetically has made me feel confident and comfortable in my own skin. I want to share them with my audience, and also thank them for their positive influence :)
This first look was inspired by Kate Gabrielle (AKA scathingly brilliant), with her pastel colour pallet, and love of vintage silhouettes. As well as her wonderful taste in fashion, Kate is a freelance artist. Her work is simple and beautiful. Sometimes it’s fandom-y, sometimes it’s cute, and sometimes it’s feminist zeitgeist-y.
Her blog was one of the first fashion blogs I started following. She’s been kind enough to show not only her ups, but also her downs throughout the years. It’s just nice seeing a creative human make themselves real :).